I am the youngest from a family of 6. I have two older brothers and an older sister. We grew up in southern California and lived a very comfortable life. My parents were both born in Mexico and came to America to start their family and provide a better future for their kids.
I am thankful everyday for the sacrifices they made for us. They are a bit old school and that is where the trouble starts. Out of everyone in my family the only person that knows about my decision to become a surrogate mother is my sister. Of course I plan to tell everyone else at some point before I am noticeably pregnant. The question is how do I explain to them what I am doing and why?? I know that they will understand and will be supportive but because of the language barrier I just don't know how to research and educate myself so that I can translate my feelings about surrogacy. It has been a challenge to say the least, I have looked on multiple websites and although they explain in Spanish what surrogacy is I just don't feel like I want my explanation to be so bland. I am completely fluent in Spanish however being in an English speaking household for now 7 years I am a little rusty and there are certain things I just don't know how to say. So my concern is how do you explain to family that you are willing to carry someone else's baby because you know this family deserves to be happy and fulfill their dreams to complete their family?
My sisters reaction was exactly what I had expected...very supportive but shocked. She supports me and my decision how ever she still has questions and every once in a while will ask me random things that come to her mind. She asked me the dreaded question I'm hoping some of you have been asked...How can you carry this baby and then give it away? It was plain and simple this is not my baby. I went in with this thought in mind and I have to remind myself daily. This is not my baby in any way shape or form. I will carry this precious baby to term for parents who I know will love and care for this baby unconditionally.
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| The Fiancee and I at our favorite place!! |
On the other hand I have my fiancées family. The father of my daughter is one of three. He is a twin which I forget on a daily basis as they are fraternal and has a younger sister. They were born in Hawaii and moved to the states about 13 years ago.
His parents were involved before I even decided to contact the agency. They thought it was a great idea and knew exactly what I wanted to fulfill by doing this. They made me feel like no matter what my choice was they would support me every step of the way. It was very unconditional and I really appreciated it. They think it will be a great experience.
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